A memorial for Jerry was held on July 28th, 2007 at his mother Neah Bay's house in Westchester, California. The invitation can be viewed at the Evite.com website by clicking Jerry's Memorial Invitation.

A number of messages were left on the invitation page and I've included them below:


* John Simonello for Deepak & Starr Whitesides (The Organizer)

Surfs up old buddy! I know your riding that big one all the way home! My deepest and sincerest wishes of love and peace go out to your beloved family. May Great Spirit comfort them all in this time of sadness and fill them with the knowing that you are at peace.....Aloha

* Trish Kirschner

Dear Starr and Deepak, I am honored to have known your Dad. Many, many years ago at a crucial time in my life, he taught me how to face my fears through his kindness, understanding and benevolent heart. Jerry, I know that you are riding the crest of the wave of eternal love and light IN PEACE. Blessings upon your entire family. Love, Trish Kirschner

* Lothar Delgado

Starr, Deepak, Neah and Sandy, I'm so sorry for your unimaginable loss, but glad that you got to care for him in his transition. May you find peace and acceptance there. I remember the shelter and magic we found in our first trip to Hawaii with your family. Love, Lothar

* seth kirschner

Hey Starr and Deepak- I don't know that I met your father, but have many fond memories of the three of us as crazy little kids having fun. I feel lucky to have spent those times with you and would have never had a chance to experience those times without your father and mother. My heart goes out to you. I live in VT and won't be able to attend. Peace, sk

* burgerrex

I will be there... Nothing but great memories about Jerry... Last time we spoke, it was about the possibility of doing some sailing in the Sea of Cortez... When I go again, very soon, I will send good thoughts of you Jerry and Know that you are with me in Spirit. Jerry was a very aware person, No surprises in the beyond for him... CARL ROLES

* Marc Wiener

Jerry You will be greatly missed! The world will be less without you. You are a great and kind soul.With Love Marc

* sandyswanji

Aloha Jerry Ji, Mahalo for all of the LOVE and blessings you shower me with. I miss you beyond and you are also right here in my heart. You are an extraordinary soul and I feel greatful to have been your wife, to be your friend and the mother of your children. Meet you in the deep... Malama Pono. A hui ho. Aloha Nui Loa...my beloved brah. God Bless, Your Sandy 

* rossmaui

Ahoha, we send our condolences,and will always remember Gerrys laugh and light on the many occasions he would drop into our home on Maui,Ross and Janine Arlidge

* drmadelinedc

Aloha and Mahalo Jerry. All my love to Sandy, Deepak and Starr at this time of change. Madeline

* suzywitten

My sincerest sympathy to Star, Deepak and Sandy, and all other family members. Suzy Witten

* Scott Rose

Jerry's kindness and special soul made a deep and lasting impression on me. I always enjoyed his company and It was a wonderful privilege for me to be his friend since 1977. We stayed in touch over the years, (I live in Florida) and my fond feelings for him will remain always. My deep condolences go out to Jerry's family. I can't fly standby (overbooked) this morning.

* nikki

am so sorry- i am in england so won't be able to attend- please send my love to Sandy, Deepak and Star... it seems weird that he is gone-- but one day, we will all pass along from here- to another shore... May he always be in peace. with love Nikki

* Shima Moore

News of Jerry's transition took my breath away! I find myself in a place of deep loss knowing that our paths will not cross again on this earthly plane. Yet I feel deep appreciation for having had Jerry as a friend. I haven't seen him in far too many years, though he's a friend I'll treasure in my heart always. My condolence and love to his family. I'll be there in spirit.

* Sylvia

My loving family sorrow is visiting us once again. Starr and Deepak you bring loving honor to your father and mother. You both gave your father the most wonderful part of his life on this earth. Your papa's love will live in both of you forever. He was a kind and gentle man. God Bless, give your mom, grandma and each other a loving hug for me. Love Auntie Sylvia xoxoxoxo

* rossiward

Dearest Family..Sandy, Deepak and Starr, I was happy to know Jerry..a beautiful man, a wonderful Dad. You are all so fortunate to have had him in your lives. We don't "get over" losing loved ones but we do get to treasure the happy memories of their love always. Heartfelt Wishes for Peace* Kathleen Rossi

* anni.vickers

Chris and I are sorry for all of our loss. We salute your ancestors.

* Aine

Sending my love and heartfelt condolences to Deepak, Starr and my beautiful swan sister Sandy. I know this will be a beautiful celebration of a life that touched many and will continue to from his celestial home. Love from Aine xxxx

* lynne trine

Jerry, I met you so many years ago and much time has gone by that I have not seen you, but your heart and your spirit remain in my memory. I will never forget the incredible surf board you made so many years ago, and as you loved the sea may it carry you home. With love, Lynne

* Dan Coats

Glad to have spent time with one of the Creators masterpieces. We spent time working together, and I still remember the kindness I felt from that time together. Do I remember or feel that? For me, both. How wonderful to meet a human being and feel the goodness of the Creator. With Love Dan

* laurajell

Thank you so much for letting me know. I haven't seen Jerry for many years but had heard he was ill. Since the memorial is limited in space, I will not attend but am with you all in the "feeling" of it.